With regards to the gay hanky code, the symbolism of the colors, and how to wear them, is more or less agreed upon.
Blue hanky left = fucking top. Yellow hanky right = pissing bottom. And so on.
The Orange “anything goes” hanky is more challenging, however. I have heard three different interpretations of its usage, each equally plausible. They are:
Under the basic interpretation, the Orange hanky functions like any other color. Left side, you are an “anything goes top,” ready to engage in any type of kink as the dominant partner.
Orange hanky right; you’re a submissive who’s ready for anything.
Easy enough. But then there’s the
Under the ‘just cruisn’ definition, Orange hanky left side means you’re into anything, literally. Top or bottom, anything goes, period.
But if left side signifies both dominant and submissive positions, than what would the right side indicate?
The right side then, means the opposite – – you aren’t into anything. You’re just looking, or “just cruising.”
This has been my go-to definition – I wear my Orange hanky right if I am out and just window shopping.
But now I’ve learned of a third definition:
The Abstinant Dom
This definition turns the other two both on their head.
It suggests that if you are Orange hanky right, you are signaling interest (if not giving outright consent) as the submissive partner in any type of scene.
If you are Orange hanky left however, you are signaling your interest in playing the dominant role in anything – including nothing at all, just looking, etc. You are in total control.
So someone who is not looking for a partner could be justified in flagging Orange in their left or right pocket, causing some confusion.
How do you think Orange should be used?